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What No One Tells You About Divorce [CC]

hello there my beautiful lovely internet friends as i sit down to record this video i keep telling myself don't do it joe don't be dumb don't say the word divorce so over the past six months i have been going through the process of ending a almost decade-long relationship and ending a marriage the word that we like to use for that is divorce now that's a word that i have avoided using with all of the power in me because it feels dirty and wrong and super shameful and like failure understandably our culture often sees divorce that way but also coming from an evangelical christian background i grew up with a very ingrained belief that divorce was never the answer but it is something that i am going through now and i've avoided talking about anything regarding that subject for you know personal reasons for the people around me but also because the amount of judgment and icky feelings that are tied up in that word for me and a lot of people are extensive however on this channel i've always made a point of trying to say the things that i'm feeling because i'm guessing i'm not the only one who's feeling them here are a few things i wish someone would have told me about getting divorced before i started this process would it change anything logistically no would it be good to be mentally prepared for the absolute disaster zone of a life that it leaves in its wake it would have been good okay so before we dive into my list i am very excited to introduce you to our new sponsor today helix getting really good rest is very important to me for a variety of reasons primarily so i can function which is why i'm very excited to introduce you to helixly helix sleep makes premium mattresses and bedding that are customized to your needs and shift right to your door and anything that can save me a trip to the store already a big fan of so every single body is different and that is why helix created a sleep quiz which you can take and it will match you with your perfect mattress they 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you can get up to 200 off your mattress and you also get two free pillows one can never have enough um make sure you check out the link thank you again to helix for sponsoring today's video and let's jump back into it shall we we shall so as i go into my list of things that no one tells you about divorce i even made a list so i wouldn't get scared and forget things i want to make it really clear that i'm not going to talk about you know any details of our relationship it's simply not important to put on the internet i wish all the best for him he wishes all the best for me when i made the decision to end this decade almost long relationship i wasn't thinking about every aspect of my life and every relationship in my life i was thinking about what was gonna be the best and healthiest thing for me and for us so i made the decision first and then i was like i'll deal with the fallout i'll deal with the consequences you know it's funny when you like have trouble at work you lose a job or your boss is being a jerk or there's difficulties your work life sucks but you can still come home or if a hobby you participate in you know is having a fallout oh that's a bummer that sucks that's a loss but at least you still have work or you still have your relationship or your home life when you end a relationship as significant as something long-term or marriage there's literally no piece of you and there's no piece of your life that it does not touch so when i entered into this relationship i was barely 21 and now i'm 31.

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